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Teens & the rise of the online ‘sexy selfie’

2F2FF64700000578-0-image-a-20_1449619612911The average age kids begin consuming media is eight years old. And, five million users under the age of 10 have Facebook profiles. That means a lot of kids are exposed to content that might be otherwise meant for young adult or adult eyes.

One of the things your online youngster might regularly see are sexy-selfies of their friends or friends of friends. A “selfie” is a self portrait taken with your smartphone and shared online or via an app. A sexy-selfie is also a self portrait, but shows the individual in a sexually explicit, inappropriate or otherwise questionable pose or situation.

Even though girls are more likely to share a selfie, they’re shared by both boys and girls as young as 10–and, perhaps, even younger. That means beginning around the age eight, you should talk to your kids about selfies, because they will take and share them.

Whether you view them as art, communication or narcissism, selfies continue to grow in popularity among tweens and teens, and are shared via text, apps and social networks. More selfies are shared on Facebook than every other social network combined (not including SnapChat).

In case you don’t know the types of photos kids are sharing, here are some of the most popular sexy-selfies:

  • The Bedtime Selfie – this includes revealing pajamas, or of a tween or teen in bed
  • The Naked Torso Selfie –  though they are mostly seen from tween and teen boys, it features a boy without his shirt out, sometimes in a suggestive pose
  • The I-just-got-out-of-the-shower Selfie –  a tween or teen will share a photo with them in a towel, sometimes standing in front of a mirror

When talking to your young child (between the ages of 8 and 14), let them know you are not saying they can’t share selfies, but only those which portray them in a way you both decide is appropriate.

Discussion points for your conversation:

  • Talk about the future. Let kids know that what they share today maybe visible by colleges and employers of tomorrow.
  • Create a list of the types of inappropriate photos. For example, photos in underwear or a swimming suit (depending on your comfort level). Don’t be afraid to get specific. It eliminates the future, “we never talked about that” conversation.
  • Set expectations. If your child breaks your trust or violates the terms you set, then make sure they are aware of the consequences. This applies to all texts, messages sent via apps and on social networks.
  • What works! Don’t only focus on the negative, but the positive. Talk about selfies your kid wants to share, like showing off a silly face or a photo of the day.
  • Let them know you’re watching. It’s essential to monitor what your kids share online–especially if they’re using a social network younger than the age allowed in a network’s terms of service. Friend them on photo-sharing sites, like Instagram, so you can also see which pictures they favorite or like.
  • Follow up. Talk to your kids about what they’re seeing from friends online. If they’re exposed to photos you’ve agreed on are inappropriate, consider having them remove those friends online.
  • Get a parental network. Join forces with your young kid’s friends’ parents to keep selfies and other photos age-appropriate.

Did you catch your child or one of their friends sharing sexy-selfies?

Original Found Here: Teens & the rise of the online ‘sexy selfie’


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NEW YORK, NY – AUGUST 25: Miley Cyrus performs onstage during the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards at the Barclays Center on August 25, 2013 in the Brooklyn borough of New York City. (Photo by Neilson Barnard/Getty Images for MTV)

The 20-year-old pop star stepped out onto the stage a ball of energy, wearing a fuzzy gray leotard, as her HIT single, “We Can’t Stop,” played. Cyrus took over the stage with gigantic; dancing bears and more twerking than viewers at home probably knew what to do with.

Now, I saw some Facebook friends commenting on Miley Cyrus VMA performance with shock and awe. My question is why? Does not the lyrics teach, “We can do what we want to?” Is this not the motto of many within the nations of the world? We hear the word of God, put it down and then do what we want to do.

I am not sure what the problem is. God himself said, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth (Revelation 3:15-16).

We need these types of lines drawn. Let dark be fully dark and let light be fully light. Are you having sex with someone who is not your husband or wife, while paying tithes, expecting God to bless you? Complaining about Miley Cyrus? Really??

Twitter accounts full of girls and grown mother’s showing their body parts at the same time on their title talking about how much they love God. How Jesus is their Savior and Lord, but many are shocked at Miley? We need to clean ourselves up. We need to train our children right and leave the world alone. Homosexuals are making discrimination laws in a country that is supposed to be over 80% Christian? How can this be?

Miley Cyrus is doing what she sees older women doing and society is paying her huge sums of money to do it.


youtube-largeWhat an awesome opportunity it is to use YouTube to broadcast quality information to those who seek it. The opportunity to learn anything from A-Z about a variety of genres is spectacular. You can learn about ways to save money, decorate the house, body build, crochet, or preach. What a fascinating system for transmitting quality information. Of course, there is a downside.

We thank God for freedom and would not desire it’s stifling, but this freedom gives the devil access to be free within our lives as well. When children access YouTube they are immediately transported into a cesspool of garbage done by adults, teens and little kids from every nation, color and creed. Things that would be rated X and R on the big screen are easily accessed here. Like every human on the planet we come equipped with curiosity and the sin nature. No parent works hard to get their children to lie, they automatically do this. It is important that parents are aware of the dangers of YouTube.

YouTube has become the place to leave suicide notes and incite death threats. YouTube encourages individuals to participate in harmful acts for views. You have fathers beating their daughters for twerking and other violent acts. Some crimes have been solved and others escalated because of footage seen from YouTube.

What should be our response? The Bible says overcome darkness with light. I encourage all believers in Jesus to make YouTube videos. Spread the love of God and wise words for people to have multiple points of access. Let’s flood the system with wisdom. Let’s encourage girls to think more about their character and not flashing their body parts. That young girls and women will choose to use discernable language and not physical violence. Let’s do better.

P.S. Adults must grow up. You are no longer a teen. Stop acting like one. You should be chaste and you should display a level of decorum that is fitting for your age.

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