Heather Barwick, who was raised by her mother and her mother’s lesbian partner, wrote in an essay this week that same-sex “marriage” is not the same as normal marriage between a man and a woman, that the traditional family is best, and that while growing up she “ached every day for a dad.”
Barwick, who is 32 now, married, and has four children, said that “same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not.”
Same-sex marriage withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not. A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.
I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a man. Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy. It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community that says that men are unnecessary. There were times I felt so angry with my dad for not being there for me, and then times I felt angry with myself for even wanting a father to begin with. There are parts of me that still grieve over that loss today.
I’m not saying that you can’t be good parents. You can. I had one of the best. I’m also not saying that being raised by straight parents means everything will turn out okay. We know there are so many different ways that the family unit can break down and cause kids to suffer: divorce, abandonment, infidelity, abuse, death, etc. But by and large, the best and most successful family structure is one in which kids are being raised by both their mother and father.
It’s only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved by their father each day, that I can see the beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage (God’s way & inline with nature) and parenting.
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I noticed an article written on the HuffingtonPost.com by a single woman who claims that marriage is not an accomplishment and wanted to respond to this article in a blog post.
My frustration is this: It is 2016 and being popped the question is still more celebrated than academic and professional pursuits of women. Yes, college graduations and landing a great career and receiving wonderful promotions are all received with happiness from friends and family, but not even close to the same level of elation received when you announce that you are getting hitched. This is my experience, at least.
“It’s time for society as a whole to re-evaluate what aspect of women’s lives we put the most value on. “
Putting more value on education and professional pursuits is stupid. The cornerstone of every society is marriage. Marriage is the linchpin. It is the institution woven together that creates the most enduring joy and happiness. It is the foundation of many songs and praises. No one sings about an accounting degree or becoming a lawyer. When you’re sick or on your last leg it is your lover who holds your hand. It is the institution that produces the best children both economically, socially, and emotionally. Marriage is awesome and it is an accomplishment. It is the reason that whites in our society do better than blacks. Married people do better financially than non-married people. The most obvious reason of all is that marriage was designed by God and instituted by him when he brought that wonderful creature that Adam called WOman “wo-” comes from the Old English “wifmon” and means “wife.”
Education and professional pursuits are right where they need to be and I would submit they can be taken down a notch and marriage even more elevated. Often times education and professional pursuits can be a source of pride and arrogance, which will profit you nothing before God, when he asks, what have you done with my Son Jesus.
P.S. Jesus told us not to worry about things, like what are you going to wear or eat, but seek Him (relationship) first. Marriage is an accomplishment. If you’re married to Jesus first that accomplishment will carry you into heaven. Your employment dies with you. Oh! A saved husband and wife, although there are no marriages in heaven, is coming with you as well.
You have heard of natural laws like gravity or thermodynamics and those with a deeper understanding know that these laws are not as fixed as we are often taught. There are supernatural laws that defy the natural. For instance Jesus in Acts 1:9 “ Now when He had spoken these things, while they watched, He was taken up, and a cloud received Him out of their sight.” No mention of wings flapping, but a blatant disregard for the law of gravity. You may have also seen demonically filled people levitate etc. However, the law of marriage that God has given man comes with some powerful benefits.
These laws pertain to Christian marriages. Those outside of Christianity are subject to mind-control and manipulation by all kinds of spirits. They are driven by the wind and tossed around having no foundation as to why they exist and for what purpose they were created. The Christian marriage has supernatural protection. Even if only one parent is saved and the unsaved person remains within the marriage there is a covering. It is important to note that Christian marriages are not exempt from attack, in fact, your anointing draws more attack than those outside as the devil has already defeated them (temporarily, if you run to Jesus).
When a husband and wife come together in agreement as touching anything on earth, God has said they will have it. This agreement is spiritual. The mere fact they have become one through sexual intimacy and one inline with God’s favor as this union is blessed by God they have a constant stream to draw from. It is not good for man to be alone. When the woman was created she completed the man. They fit together perfectly like a puzzle. Their love creates the next generation and you can see instantly why Satan works so hard to destroy this union. Each baby that is born from a woman covered by her husband and then God is a huge problem for the kingdom of darkness.
The mind of this child is protected by their parents and anyone seeking their harm will only be the child’s promotion for the kingdom of God. Statistics show that when a husband and wife raise their children in the admonition of the Lord they are without psychological trauma that many children in world experience. They know God and God loves them and they prosper in his kingdom.
Prayer for the Christian marriage: Forgive me of all my sins. I forgive my spouse for sinning against me. We invite the Lord Jesus Christ into our dwelling place. We ask him to rest in our home. We ask him to bring peace to our home. We ask him to evict evil spirits that may be hiding in our home. We ask him to identify for us gateways and ways to close them, so that our family is safe from evil. We ask the Lord Jesus to anoint our heads with the oil of gladness and to shower down blessings that overflow into the next generation. If I have a participated in any occult behavior, karate meditation, yoga mediation, premarital sex, whatever evil spirit from these things, go in Jesus name. Any spirit of depression that likes to linger, you go as well in Jesus name. Now Lord Jesus, refresh, renew, restore, replenish, in Jesus name.
My husband and I attend a large Protestant church of the superfunrockband denomination. On Wednesday evenings, our church holds small group Bible studies, and HHG and I attend the one for married couples. We meet in a large room and split into small groups, each group with its own table and leader.
This past week was rough because the topic was sex. I just could not believe that all the things we joke about Christians saying were actually said. For example, one young woman actually used the women-are-like-a-crockpot crock of crap. This is not true, in case anyone has not figured it out yet. It does not take a woman, Christian or otherwise, eight hours to become sexually aroused. The idea that a man needs to spend eight hours giving her tender kisses, helping with the laundry, telling her how much he loves her, and bringing her flowers just to turn her on is wrong. She may like all those things very much, they may be nice things to do, but they will not make her sexually aroused. Why do Christian women keep telling men this? It’s like we’ve all succumbed to mass delusion.
Unbelievably, another woman told the group how hot it is when her husband does the dishes and plays with the kids. She actually said that as a serious comment, and all the other ladies laughed and nodded. HHG immediately texted me under the table, wishing to know why, if women find men doing dishes to be so irresistibly arousing, he has never received a bl*w j*b while up to his elbows in soap suds. I could no longer stand it, so I whipped out my iPad and looked up a recent study, refuting her blue pill bull pucky by reading aloud the following quote:
A February paper in the American Sociological Review reported that married couples in which men take on a greater share of the dishes, laundry and other traditionally female chores had sex less often than average, which in this study was about five times a month. Yet couples in which men confined themselves largely to traditionally male chores such as yard work enjoyed sex more frequently than average.
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The subject of dating outside the faith often comes up when someone has found an attractive nice person interested in yoking up. They entertain the idea that this nice person would make a great mate and so they go for it. If beauty was the ingredient for successful marriages than most marriages would be successful as most people marry those they find attractive.
So what is the admonition given to mankind concerning the yoking of unbelievers? “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers:” (2 Corinthians 6:14). According to the scriptures there is no exception to this rule for obedient believers in Jesus.
It does not matter what this individual looks like, how they smell, or what money they possess. Save yourself by being obedient.