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000000320254-Paige_Butcher-squaremediumI must confess that I get tired of this word bully. It is becoming more and more abused as time goes on. The ability for people to simply tell the truth is becoming more and more limited. When I was growing up in school it was commonplace to be made fun of. I was made fun of quite abit, I talk about it in Journey through the Desert and I think I turned out fine. I would not say I enjoyed the endeavor, but my value was established from loving parents and the word of God.

I enjoyed the days when telling the truth was easier and more accepted. I remember approaching this blonde girl in school, she was beautiful and tall. She was 5’10 and well I was shorter. The awesome thing about her was her honesty. At the time it was called spitting and I proceeded to do this and she said, I have to tell you something. I like my guys taller than me and I like milk instead of dark chocolate. I said, ok, and left her alone.

Of course, I was hurt a little, I liked her and it was a natural response, but I was also pleased by the honesty. The conversation was in private and she did not yell it from the rooftop. I also knew girls who liked me that I did not like. That’s life.

Let’s approach life with honesty. We all have people who like us that we do not like. Remember this when you approach someone who does not like you. Getting angry and bent out of shape is not necessary. Let’s learn to accept the truth and move on.

I play the matchmaker from time to time, my record is not that good, but what I found in doing this, that people do not like telling the truth. People are clearly not attracted to the other person and instead of simply saying this they say something else that sounds stupid. I am not sure if the other person always accepts this, but would not the truth be simpler?

If you are reading this blog, lets commit today to telling the truth. Of course, telling the truth can be done tactfully as in my experience and this is the way it should always be done. Her message was honest, in secret, and clear.

Thoughts On: Internet Dating for Christian males and females

It is my understanding based upon the Bible that man and female from the beginning were both created in the image of God and received blessings from God. From the beginning man was created first and then God brought Eve to Adam after placing him asleep. This  happened ONLY once. Never again does God create man and give him a woman like in the beginning. Now from the beginning the two become one flesh and have offspring. The man is the primary seeker of the hand of the woman through customary gifts to her parents. A tradition still held with some, but nonetheless a tradition. “Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Prov. 18:22. The order is ideal, but not law. For in the book of Ruth she makes herself available to Boaz by lying at his feet in the middle of the night. A gesture that shows the man she is available for marriage. A movement on the part of the woman, but here the woman must stop and let the man take over. Do not force it. Failure will be certain even if you manage to marry him there will be unnecessary trouble. Esther presented herself before the king by having her body cleaned, perfumed, manicured, and clothed properly. She dressed for the occasion. We fast forward to the 21st century and we enjoy the pleasure called the internet.

A proverbial tank filled with all kinds of fish, some great, some good, and some evil. Women who choose to wait on the Lord by sitting in the house and attending the normal church service, choir and prayer meeting, and work or not waiting on the Lord for a mate. They are just waiting. Men are waiting on women to join Christian dating sites. Faith without works is dead being alone. You must work by filling out your information and allowing yourself to be known. Focus on a paid service to eliminate those who are not serious and become available otherwise, tell individuals you’re not waiting on the Lord, but sometimes like the idea of marriage but enjoy being single better.