Why do Christian women perpetuate myths about attraction?


My husband and I attend a large Protestant church of the superfunrockband denomination. On Wednesday evenings, our church holds small group Bible studies, and HHG and I attend the one for married couples.  We meet in a large room and split into small groups, each group with its own table and leader.

This past week was rough because the topic was sex.  I just could not believe that all the things we joke about Christians saying were actually said.  For example, one young woman actually used the women-are-like-a-crockpot crock of crap.  This is not true, in case anyone has not figured it out yet.  It does not take a woman, Christian or otherwise, eight hours to become sexually aroused.  The idea that a man needs to spend eight hours giving her tender kisses, helping with the laundry, telling her how much he loves her, and bringing her flowers just to turn her on is wrong.  She may like all those things very much, they may be nice things to do, but they will not make her sexually aroused.  Why do Christian women keep telling men this?  It’s like we’ve all succumbed to mass delusion.

Unbelievably, another woman told the group how hot it is when her husband does the dishes and plays with the kids.  She actually said that as a serious comment, and all the other ladies laughed and nodded. HHG immediately texted me under the table, wishing to know why, if women find men doing dishes to be so irresistibly arousing, he has never received a bl*w j*b while up to his elbows in soap suds.  I could no longer stand it, so I whipped out my iPad and looked up a recent study, refuting her blue pill bull pucky by reading aloud the following quote:

A February paper in the American Sociological Review reported that married couples in which men take on a greater share of the dishes, laundry and other traditionally female chores had sex less often than average, which in this study  was about five times a month. Yet couples in which men confined themselves largely to traditionally male chores such as yard work enjoyed sex more frequently than average.

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7 responses to “Why do Christian women perpetuate myths about attraction?

  1. I still haven’t figured out what is wrong with men and women having different roles. Even in a homosexual relationship different people bring different things to the table, or under the table. I don’t want to learn to work on the car, my husband does not want to learn to cook. We have sex about once a week, sometimes twice. Sometimes we go a whole month without any and sometimes we do it three times in one day.

  2. Something about this post troubles me–call me a prude if you will—but just imagine with me for a moment the early Church in Jerusalem meeting to the sound of loud drum beats–swaying in time to the music and raising their hands in praise to God while often dressed immodestly, and then sitting down to discus their sex lives. If this is what the church is about today we have strayed far from the concepts of righteousness and holiness which God seeks for in His people.

    • It should trouble you. There should be no complaints in the home of Christians that pertain to sex and marriage. However, Christian churches are filled with secondary and third married people. Marriages are failing in and outside the church for those who claim to be Christians. Many women who claim to be Christians rather teach their daughters independence than to teach them how to love their husbands like the Bible says. Being prudish or rather hypocritical, for most, in this time of progressive sexualization is not wise. Hiding is not an option. The devils box has already made its way into almost every home in America. Everyone is being fed a steady diet of filth. You leave your home and see billboards and malls filled with it. What is the Christian response? To hide? No! Bring everything into the light so that God can clean it up.

      The devil likes to hide things. The Bible says confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. I assure you whatever we hide will be brought to the light. Do we glory in it? No! Do we detest it? Yes! Do we act like this is not a problem? No! We illuminate it.

      What I find interesting about this post is that many will think its raw and then watch demonic PG-13 disney channels and rated R movies. They will put up Christmas trees and hang balls on them, why? Many don’t know why.

      What am I saying in all this? The church is messed up and many are outside of scripture. We have female elders, pastors, disciples, and for some reason I do not see any of these positions given to women in Scripture. Not one women authored any book in the Bible. The closest book is Proverbs 31 where the information came from a women, but authored by a man. Women are given the prophetic gift and that is scriptural. Women do not wear head coverings like in the Bible and the list goes on and on. That is why most churches have no power and prayers are never answered. What many claim as answered prayer are things that would happen naturally for most anyway. Like I got promoted, well you’ve been working there for the past 15 years it should happen.

      I digress. Yes! The Biblical model for marriage should be each has possession over one another’s body. Let me ask you this, is this operating in your home? If not, why?

      • Yes –We are I guess what you would call “old-time” believers. I believe that women should be in submission to their husbands. The husband believes that he is to cherish his wife as his own body. I do not believe that women should be teaching men–I agree that women have overstepped their bounds in the many arenas today. In the church and in the world. We are becoming more and more a matriarchal society which God never intended.
        While I understand there may be a need for sexual counseling–I know that many–especially new believers have a twisted view of sexuality–but I think that should be done in private not in a group setting where Satan make take advantage of our fleshly weakness.
        I’m not familiar with a lot of different churches but I fear that we as a generation have strayed from what the church should be teaching. Teaching on sin for one thing and Bible doctrine for another. As well as soulwinning which includes preaching on hell to motivate us to live righteous and holy lives that translate into winning others to Him. We are in a spiritual warfare and the enemy is gaining way too much ground while we “enjoy” our church experiences and take nothing away that enriches us spiritually or draws us closer to Him.

      • I hear you loud and clear. Thanks for your comment.

      • You are welcome–hope I didn’t offend—God Bless

      • Not at all. Your comment was necessary for the fulfillment of this post.

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