THE PERFECT LOVE STORY

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A man just confessed to me that he is in love with someone who has turned his world upside down. This woman that he saw from a distance would soon become his wife. He knew from the moment his eye lids lifted that the vision before him was so stunning and so magnificent his lips began to quiver. I am telling you this woman reminded him of Eve in the garden, Samson’s Delilah, Abraham’s old attractive wife, and Jacob’s Rachel. If you recall Jacob within the pages of scripture he loved Rachel at first sight. This woman was equipped with all the bells and whistles of a 7 series BMW. She was in all practical terms the perfect woman. This man mutters some words only a gifted linguist can recognize and she still says yes to whatever he just said. Exchanging the proverbial number and parting ways this man overjoyed by the encounter goes to the mall to update his clothing.

Who would have guessed that the mall he chose and the time in which to go, this Rachel like woman would also be there too. It just so happens, they both were looking to update their clothing. He confronts her again and they chat a little and then they part again, only this time a date is confirmed at Ruth’s Chris Steak House. Delighted to make reservations and to plan a wonderful evening of getting to know his better half, nothing could be so perfect, so grand and spectacular.

So the dinner date is arranged and this man and his perfect woman are out on a date. Shortly into the date this man finds out this woman does not believe in God. He knows that the Bible says that a man or woman should not be unequally yoked, but he reminds himself that she is perfect the way she is. A little disturbed by this because he is Christian, he decides to continue the relationship, because what would Jesus do? Get her saved. Right?

They have been dating for six months now and he is ready to marry her. She is not saved and his attempts to present Christ were met with let’s agree to disagree. This man finds himself at the decision point when purchasing the ring, but he keeps recalling those light brown eyes and those perfect bells and whistles.

So he plunges in and they get married and the honeymoon could not be better. They stayed at their beautiful home, because the wedding was so expensive there was no money left over for a trip to Europe or the Bahamas.

The fire of passion fades and the flames are dialed down and this man gets more zealous about his relationship with Jesus. His wife is not pleased with his time at church, as she does not attend, due to the fact she does not believe in God. Then something happens…

Please comment – should they have gotten married? If no or yes please answer why?

photo by Vanessa

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54 responses to “THE PERFECT LOVE STORY

  1. Sittin on the fence with this one. Wow! Lots of questions to ask first before ascertaining whether or not they should have got married. 1) Why would she be upset with him going to church? 2) Was this not discussed before the marriage? 3) Are they not able to continue agreeing to disagree about opposing religious views? 4) – more questions to come when I think of them

    • 1) because they have have differing world views 2) Yes! agree to disagree 3) easy to say, application in reality becomes quite difficult 4) more questions are welcome.

  2. No,they should not. The Scripture, “be not unequally yoked” is for our protection. If Christ is #1 in a person’s life, that should permeate every area of their life. This is incompatible with a person who does not believe, and creates chaos in the marriage, chil-raising decisions, and more. Agree to disagree does not work on the big, world- view issues. The first date should have been the last date in a perfect world.

  3. What happened after? I’m really curious…

    Personally, I believe they shouldn’t have gotten married – so fast! He should have tried bringing her to church first and showing her his love for God. If she really opposed him at the beginning, he probably wouldn’t marry her if he really respects God’s commands. Those light brown eyes and those perfect bells and whistles are just the outside appearance but what’s important it’s her soul, her values and what she believes in that should be focused on. I honestly feel really sad when I hear those kind of love story between a Christian and non-believer. I do believe in miracles though. If I have a Christian friend who’s in love with a non-believer, I’d encourage her/him to bring the significant half to church. Miracles happen, you just have to believe in them. A non-believer can potentially become a child of God.

  4. I won’t pass judgement since it’s by God’s grace I am married to a follower of Christ. But, I do believe our command to not be unequally yoked is for our protection by a God who knows the dangers of yoking up with unbelievers.

  5. John H. Harbison

    The emotions can often lead the heart to go places where it would not normally go. It is easy to say that they should not have married, which I agree with, though it is not an easy decision and I know personally people who were unequally yoked and the unbelieving spouse became a believer – which I hope is what happens in this case. It is so important to guard the heart so it makes wise choices in difficult situations.

  6. “…Please comment – should they have gotten married? If no or yes please answer why?…”

    Maybe. That’s really the best we can say without knowing the mind of the Lord on this individual situation. We may think there are scriptures to back up our thinking about Christians only marrying Christians, but there are no laws on it, just a few verses which can be taken out of context.

    Throughout history, some mighty people of God have been saved because their Christian mates married them and then prayed them and discipled them into the kingdom. Then, these new converts did mighty works for God and their marriages flourished.

    So, my thinking is that if there are exceptions, then there are not laws.

  7. No, they should not have gotten married. This is going to be a huge issue in the future when it comes to how to raise the children. It is something that the believing spouse should have analyzed more closely before purchasing a ring. It is a terribly unfortunate situation to be in, but this is a deal breaker for me.

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  9. Gaylon L. Avery

    Emphatically NO! In God’s Word we read:
    You were once dead because of your failures and sins. You followed the ways of this present world and its spiritual ruler. This ruler continues to work in people who refuse to obey God. All of us once lived among these people, and followed the desires of our corrupt nature. We did what our corrupt desires and thoughts wanted us to do. So, because of our nature, we deserved God’s anger just like everyone else. But God is rich in mercy because of His great love for us…….Eph 2:1-4

  10. He had faith and hope; miracles do happen. I was engaged to be married to a born again christian man,he changed completly in a snap, left me,telling me that we should agree to disagree on his decision because we’ve been disagreeing on a lot of things lately. So really I hope they find restoration.

  11. It doesn’t really matter now, the question is moot. They are married and he, as a believer vowed to God ’til death us do part’, whether she did or not. The Bible speaks of a godly woman being able to save her husband through example she sets and the exercise of her faith…. so maybe he can reach her by living a Godly life. If she leaves anyway then he will spend the rest of his life wishing he had witnessed to her before he embarked down the road to Holy matrimony for her sake as well as his own….

  12. it doesn’t matter whether they should or shouldn’t, they did. The biggest issue is did he marry her trying to change her or accepting her as she was. I believe the very thing that you fall in love with is the thorn in your side later on. But I also believe that God accepts us where we are. He will work with this situation and bring healing if they are willing.
    GREAT post for pondering!

  13. He should not have married her because of the whole “unequally yoked” thing already mentioned. Logically speaking, marriage to a Christian is different than marriage to an unbeliever – and communication in marriage it tough enough as it is! The unbeliever’s commitment is based on societal underpinnings while the Christian sees marriage as the ultimate expression of Jesus’ love for his church. And there’s always the question of how the kids will be raised.

    We don’t know the end of the story. Things may turn out okay, but that doens’t mean God has blessed the decision. David and Bathsheba eventually had Solomon as a son, who God would choose to be the great wise king, despite the despicable way they arrived at being united in marriage: fornication, betrayal and murder.

    I hope things turn out okay, but the right decision is always what God instructs in the Bible.

  14. Been there, done that (except it never quite got to the altar…)

    He knew he shouldn’t. He even heard within his spirit the command of “No” when he first entertained the thought. But she was so sweet, so caring, so compassionate, and so many other things he had always sought in a wife. Most of all, she was a friend when he needed it most. And so, when the first storm came, he broke free of the moorings and fled across the country to be with her.

    What was that “something”? It was many things. A staggering recession that crushed their idealistic dreams. Two families that were opposed to the arrangement (his family because she wasn’t a believer, her family because he was), split into two equally bitter sides, constantly deriding one partner into the ears of the other. Her wounds from past relationships, wounds that couldn’t heal because she didn’t have a relationship with the Healer. Throughout it all, he prayed, waited, prayed, and waited, until his faith began to waver and doubt began to creep in.

    For it was that very Scipture about being unequally yoked that haunted him at night, even while he lived through the consequences during the day.

    She tried her best to love him with natural human love but, without the Spirt, when the challenges continued to mount, she simply couldn’t maintain her love. Love, after all, if it be true, is from God, and cannot be generated through mere human effort. If effort were enough, they would be married happily-ever-after to this very day. Instead, they split, back to living on opposite sides of the continent. All was lost.

    Or was it? Six months later, when a personal tragedy befell his life, he reached out to her, and to the comfort that only comes from somebody with whom you have been intimate. To his surprise, she answered and, during his trial, she was once again there for him, if only by phone.

    How did she have the strength to do this in spite of her own broken heart? She did it through the grace of God.

    In his absence, she was haunted by what she had seen and experienced in his life. She wanted what he had. She sought God. She found Him. She was born-again.

    He still misses her. Every once in a while, she misses him. But the Lord has seen fit to lead them in opposite directions. She has a new relationship with a Christian man, while exploring a ministry in music worship. He has a new life in a new church, as the past is healed and he is made whole again.

    Does her salvation justify his sin? Absolutely not. But he takes comfort in knowing that not only is he forgiven through repentance, but that the Lord can, and does, work for the good of those who love him. (Rom 8:28-30).

  15. @ Don Hartness: Praise God for this, no matter what at least this woman’s life was impacted enough for her to be lead to Christ and remain in Him…… If this man was you, I think you need to know that above all Love prevailed and you were the man sent from God to help her see Jesus and he was and is working in you to make a great impact… All is well and it will continue to be so.. thank you for sharing… truly remarkable story… Remain Blessed!

    • Thank you Sabrina; your words mean more than I can describe. It is words such as these that I hold onto when the enemy tries to make me believe that my life does not matter to anyone, or when he attacks me with the past, or when my heart grieves over what I lost. A truly bittersweet ending but I look forward to the day when I see her clothed in white.

  16. It is difficult when one believes and one does not. The best hope is that they will both continue to grow with each other and through that growth and love both find a higher level of belief. The vehicles may not be the same, but hopefully there will be a spiritual union of God regardless of venue.

  17. I’m in this position now. Not the engagement or marriage part, but in a relationship with someone who is agnostic. Sometimes he says it does seem like there’s a higher power driving things, other times not. I’m really battling with this because God is a part of my life. Coupled with the stress of the divorce I went through last year, I am constantly second guessing myself.

    • The grace of God is reflected in stories of success when two unequally yoked together people have joined. The difficulty that arises when Christians live to contradict the clear word to abstain from such relationships is confusion and extreme displeasure. Christian relationships already face difficulties in the flesh and I believe more so as the devil works hard to cause division. A Christian family poses a threat to the demonic kingdom as such families usually create more of the same. I apologize for all this dialogue, but the word is clear and as a believer you should follow Jesus example of suffering for a little while in singleness and let the right person bless you with a love that he is receiving from God. There is a difference between someone who uses the title Christian and actually reveals such through the demonstration of loving not just you, but the brethren in general. This does not imply that unsaved people are incapable of love, because idolatry is loving something else beside God as supreme.

  18. Thank you for your honesty. 🙂
    I think there is a strong possibility there is still a christian inside of him. He had a bad religious experience (he became a Witness and found them dropping him emotionally and physically as soon as he started to struggle in his marriage). I see glimmers of God in him, but I don’t know if I should hold on to see if it’s there or not. I am under the feeling that I should wait and see, but I know this relationship cannot progress unless it’s there.

  19. What a thought-provoking start to my day. Marriage is so much more work than I ever imagined … and I share a love for God with my hubby! I cannot imagine having to make life changing decisions with one who does not share my Christian worldview. Attraction, passion and desire are the human tools to bring us together with another … it would not be difficult to imagine that even Satan might use our natural desires for his purposes. I remember being 19 and in the beginnings of a relationship that was ‘perfect’ … except that we did not share a faith in God. He was attractive, kind, caring and when he looked at me, I melted. It was a most difficult thing to do to discontinue seeing him, but I remember praying to God, ‘this hurts me to end this relationship, but I am trusting you above my own desires.’ I have known so many who have married unbelieving spouses, and their comments are the same, ‘don’t do it’

  20. I love the pictures. I have a question did they get married in the church or was it civil wedding?

  21. Marriage is good only if you are married to the right person. What happened next? Looking forward to it 🙂

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  23. Does he vociferously talk about his religion as a braggard or quietly conduct his life as a model to be followed? That might influence her reaction and opinion about his relationship with the church. The first creating hatred and jealousy, the second, inviting a compassionate inclusion and curiosity, not passive aggressively manipulating her into it.

  24. Biblically a line was crossed in becoming unequally yoked, however, now they are married and the relationship needs to be a high priority, second only to the ‘Jesus factor’. When a believer chooses to marry an unbeliever, the only ‘preaching’ he or she has the right to do, is living the love of Jesus in the life of their spouse. Unfortunately too many go into the relationship thinking they will convert the other… it doesn’t work. That’s the Holy Spirit’s work and the believer’s responsibility is to ‘love them as they are’.

  25. I was there and the church took over my life as a succession of soaps took over her’s. We parted. Now with another we look in the same direction and life is good. We are in the world as your two are but not of the world. If they had not meant to be together they would not have met. Their meeting brings to each that which is necessary for each Soul’s growth however briefly that may last. Love Hanukah.

  26. What happened????? I think that he should have not married her. Yes, it would have been hard to walk away but in the end, it would have saved a lot of pain. Because he can’t change a person only God can and if she was really to be his wife, it would have happened in God’s time. That was great. I hope you post a part 2. I came on your site to thank you for following my blog – http://evolutionofawoman.com. And now I will follow your blog because I think you are a great writer. You totally pulled me in to this story, which is not easy to do. God bless.

  27. roger this is awesome…thumbs up.

  28. It can be heart breaking to be in a marriage that is unequally yoked. I was very blessed the day my husband was saved–in fact I was crying harder than he was in total joy. So sometimes it works out. But when it doesn’t it often leads to pain, tremendous struggles or even divorce. The children rarely seem to come out of those situations saved, too, which leads to the question of doing the right thing by your as of yet unborn children. Love should never be the only consideration behind choosing to get married.

  29. I love the queston. I do not find myself being too hard on this man. At least not for marrying a non christian. There is much that we do not know here. But from what we do know, the man would have been wise to wait for a bit longer. Why would I say that? Well to begin with, he still thought of this woman as being perfect. No woman (nor man) is perfect. But I am romantic enough to say that sometimes a man and a woman can be perfect for each other. I am exceptionally blessed to know of this from my own experience. Also at the beginning of this dating relationship the man is not yet as devoted to Christ Jesus as he will be later. What this tells me is that when this man decides to marry, he has an over inflated view of the woman. And an under inflated view of Christ. This is not a recipe for making wise life choices.

    So then if I were to council this man, I would encourage him to just be patient. Give it a little time. I do understand that judgment is greatly clouded when one is infatuated. But I would encourage him in this way. Decisions like this have such great ramifications that they deserve time and consideration and prayer. Young men so often make life altering mistakes because they place their identity and/or their significance in a girl or a choice of career. This does go well. But the one who places his identity and significance in Christ Jesus will be secure for all of eternity.

    Given time, as this man’s love for Jesus grows and his infatuation with the woman fades, I think that things would begin to come into focus for him. He would grow more capable of discerning many things. Not the least of which is whether or not his girlfriend would be inclined to surrender herself to the lordship of Jesus Christ. He would also come to recognize that as a follower of Christ, a life-mate that does not also follow Christ is not a perfect match. Friends, ideals, goals, habits, hopes and dreams would all be in conflict.

    Patiently waiting is as difficult a thing as I know of. But the reward for such a thing has great value. Be ever so patient and careful young man/woman. The choices you make today will weigh heavy for the rest of your days. Ask God for a wise and discerning heart. He will be faithful!

  30. Reblogged this on A walk in the Word and commented:
    I love the queston. I do not find myself being too hard on this man. At least not for marrying a non christian. There is much that we do not know here. But from what we do know, the man would have been wise to wait for a bit longer. Why would I say that? Well to begin with, he still thought of this woman as being perfect. No woman (nor man) is perfect. But I am romantic enough to say that sometimes a man and a woman can be perfect for each other. I am exceptionally blessed to know of this from my own experience. Also at the beginning of this dating relationship the man is not yet as devoted to Christ Jesus as he will be later. What this tells me is that when this man decides to marry, he has an over inflated view of the woman. And an under inflated view of Christ. This is not a recipe for making wise life choices.

    So then if I were to council this man, I would encourage him to just be patient. Give it a little time. I do understand that judgment is greatly clouded when one is infatuated. But I would encourage him in this way. Decisions like this have such great ramifications that they deserve time and consideration and prayer. Young men so often make life altering mistakes because they place their identity and/or their significance in a girl or a choice of career. This does go well. But the one who places his identity and significance in Christ Jesus will be secure for all of eternity.

    Given time, as this man’s love for Jesus grows and his infatuation with the woman fades, I think that things would begin to come into focus for him. He would grow more capable of discerning many things. Not the least of which is whether or not his girlfriend would be inclined to surrender herself to the lordship of Jesus Christ. He would also come to recognize that as a follower of Christ, a life-mate that does not also follow Christ is not a perfect match. Friends, ideals, goals, habits, hopes and dreams would all be in conflict.

    Patiently waiting is as difficult a thing as I know of. But the reward for such a thing has great value. Be ever so patient and careful young man/woman. The choices you make today will weigh heavy for the rest of your days. Ask God for a wise and discerning heart. He will be faithful!

  31. Some how our humanness outweighs our spiritual self. Once in the situation of being married one needs to work on making it work and have it continue to work. In my case a miracle occurred. I can only thank

    God for his Divine help. It does help to both be going in the right direction. The path ahead becomes clear with two using the same helm. Thank you for this story. I am hoping that it will follow my personal miracle. C

  32. your question?????? should they have gotten married??? if no or yes,….please answer why??????,……hhhhmmmmmm???????? well,….my answer is that it is absolutely none of my business,….which isn’t a “no or a yes”……..do i still answer as to why my answer is what it is??????

  33. i’m gonna re read your scenario again……..a couple of times actually……

  34. i made sure to read no one else’s comments before i began writing mine,…and i still haven’t read them,….but,….i love little christian/biblical hypothetical puzzles like this!!!!!!!!! it is actually a great way to learn all kinds of things!!! but in this case,….the application of the practicing of our ways of faith! very cool!!!!!….more n a sec, k???? this is cool!

  35. ok,…so I guess I’ll just go off of all the little clues in your scenario??? The old love at first sight thing???? hhmmm……boy there is a tricky and touchy statement!!! I think in the case presented in your story, “infatuation” would be a more appropriate word than love,…..he mumbles incoherently, yet she still gives him her number???? ok,….so she definitely WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO HIS ABILITY TO HOLD A CONVERSATION OR “COMMUNICATE!”,….so,…what was she attracted to???? Maybe she liked the feeling that she got from rendering this man senseless, to the point of speechlessness??? Good old flattery!??? It sounds like a “birds of a feather” situation to me. so,..off the “two” superficial people go to the mall to make a stronger superficial impression on the other????? Instead of looking at “substance and depth???” Be careful what we wish for,…because we just might get it!!!??? So,…they run into each other again in the same “hour” perhaps????? A “tad” more chit chat,….but since they were so focused on the superficial,….away they went again???? Perhaps this is why so many in “relationships”,…are in “bad” or “weak” relationships????? Just a thought (as all of these words that I write are, by the way)…..So they book in to the the high class steak house?????? Which high class “usually means” high dollar,…doesn’t it????? So now they are together as one another’s just right dressed “trophies???”

    So then,….”shortly” into the date,…he finds she doesn’t believe in God,…..man!!! Dude was quick to bring God up,…and then get God out of the way, wasn’t he????? And then the old WWJD thing???? yup,…”he’ll get her saved!!!!! (lol,…good luck with that one!) now,…psychologically,….this guys personality would place him in the “fixer” category,…wouldn’t it??? He is in for one heck of an adventure!!!! But she is “perfect just the way she is?????”,…but then,….after his admission of her perfection???? he decides to fix her???? denial is a funny thing, isn’t it????

    Six months and ready for the big “M”,…marriage!!!! ouch! Elvis summed it up quite nicely when he sang that WISE MEN SAY, THAT ONLY FOOLS RUSH IN!!!!……….and there was also this,…”his ATTEMPTS TO present Christ were met by her with let’s agree to disagree?????? Let’s see,…King Solomon,…the wisest man in the world,…a very strong and Godly man!!! Took a bunch of ungodly wives and concubines to and for himself, didn’t he??? He even made altars for them to worship “other god’s” at, didnt he????? And let’s see,…..what happened to Solomon because of his compromise?????? He pretty much instantly disappeared from the bible,…didn’t he???? At least he disappeared from it in being in a good light,….(I think???) he did write a lot of things about regret after that didn’t he??? (maybe not?)

    and,…he “presented” Christ to her??? from “time to time???” you mean, he didn’t LIVE CHRIST TO HER 24/7???? was his faith weak or wavering or something???????? hhhmmmmm????

    so,..skip ahead a bit,…now they are married!!!! they have their very fine house,…where they “had to” honeymoon???? because the wedding was so expensive??? too expensive???? these two really know how to keep their “outer image” upstanding by living beyond their means, don’t they???????? now it appears that they “wanted to go to Europe,..or the Bahamas,….as they were mentioned in the story, correct??? But the honeymoon at home was great??? It sounds like maybe a tad of denial reared it’s head again, and “allowed” them to “convince” themselves that things couldn’t be better???…….

    Now the fire of passion has burned down,…and “then” the husband starts getting more zealous about his “relationship” with Jesus?????? Now,….his wife is not pleased about all of his “church” time????? (is this church time,..or Jesus time, as there is a difference???)
    As for his “sudden and new found zealousness??? It sounds like what “may” be known as a “crisis of unbelief???” In other words,…he was seeing the proverbial writing on the wall,…and “now” he was desperate???? If he starts attending church enthusiastically, just maybe God will make everything all better??????

    But the wife is not pleased because she doesn’t believe in God???????? Jealousy??? Resentment??? etc????

    But then,…”something happens????????? oooooo, a “cliffhanger!!!!!!”…….nice touch!!!!!!!

    Okay,…all of what I just wrote here were a series of “fact” (?????) based, BUT HASTY judgments,..(even though I put thought into them)…we could decide that the pieces presented to us could easily be used to build/construct a detailed (yet judgmental) view of the picture puzzle that we assemble when making these type of judgments,….couldn’t we???? God knows all of what each of us are going through,…He knows us inside and out,….He knows what can be done in all of our lives,….He knows the supernatural and miraculous changes that can take place in any and all of our lives,…no matter who we are,..or what we have done,..or,…are doing………..when we think that we have someone else’s life, or “lives” plural,…especially in the case of a marriage,..good, bad, or otherwise,…all figured out to the point of making a conclusive judgment…..then He also knows that we may have a whole lot of surprises heading our way!!! I “intentionally” painted a scenario of near hopelessness based on the “evidence”,..the “pieces” in the story,…..but,….truth be told,…there were, and are,…”not enough” pieces for us to judge these individuals marriage,…..or do you truly feel that there are, and were???????

    When I said that it is “none of my business” to judge,….Jesus says that we are to “judge” righteous judgment,….does He not???? This means we are to judge in a loving and encouraging way,…no matter what the outcome???? Many times,..our harsh judgments can actually create an ungodly outcome in another’s life….So, do we “help”,..or do we “hurt???”

    Now,…as I said,….this is just me commenting on this story, as obviously due to the length of this comment thread implies!!! Man!!!! You guys and girls are great!!! Again,…these are just a “few” of my thoughts,….now I said earlier that I haven’t read any of your comments,…which is true,….so,…..when I hit the post comment button,…I am then going to read them!!!! this should be very interesting! I am very curious as to what you have all shared here concerning this “marriage made in??????”

    But,…for the author of this post,……I would “really” like to see how your story ends!!! and this I would like to see,…..FOR BETTER,….OR WORSE!!!!??? LOL

  36. If he could change the past, he should have made being a Christian a deal-breaker. There are just too many potential issues that could easily be avoided. If they have children, would she be okay with them being Christian?

    I wasn’t a Christian when my husband and I first met and about three months into our relationship he told me that he couldn’t get serious about a girl who wasn’t a Christian….the next week he brought me a bible and a bible study workbook.

    I was hesitant about the idea as I was in college, I lived in a sorority and enjoyed going to the bars almost every night. Fortunately, I already knew that my husband was something special and I wasn’t ready to let him go just yet so I agreed to read my bible with him every evening and do our bible study. Soon I found myself staying in every night and reading my bible…and a year later I got saved, and a year and a half after that we got married.

    I believe that if I wouldn’t have become a Christian, my husband and I would have a very troubled marriage.

  37. I LOVE THIS LAST COMMENT HERE!

  38. In Ephesians we learn that marriage was created to reflect the mystery of the gospel. Marriage displays the loving and covenant-keeping relationship between Christ and His pure and spotless bride, the Church. Marriage was not created for our happiness, it was created to give glory to God. God never blesses disobedience–the man is in for a long, hard life.

  39. Single! Young Christian Woman

    I’m gonna say “no” because I don’t see any evidence throughout the courtship that He is really searching God’s will, but maybe just being a little flippant about it, asking the question WWJD. So he probably shouldn’t have…BUT God has a way of working with our disobedience, so that doesn’t mean things don’t/won’t work out for them both. But it more than likely means there are undesirable consequences for his disobedience. The only reasons I hold out that it could be possible that God would direct him to marry an unbeliever is because 1. it’s not unprecedented (e.g. Gomer) and 2. I’ve known of mixed marriages that worked out – meaning God used them to bring the other to Christ.

  40. Roger, I love your blog. It is so timely for all of us! After all, this walk is not about where we go to worship outside our homes, but about our whole lives as children of God. Excellent, and glad to be following! T Peace.

  41. I believe they should have gotten married, but only after the discussion in difference. I strongly believe that because a person does not follow in our same path, religion or otherwise, that in no way makes them any less worthy of our Love. I am sure that the values that she has as an individual is what brought them together, not who she worships and vice-versa.

    To say the above for me is a difficult one as I have spent many years and on occasion still struggle with my own belief’s due to the many difficulties that I have faced in my life. But to remain faithful, that remains in my heart despite the many times I have asked, ‘Why am I being picked on?” Once I accepted in my heart and soul that God does not create my life, but in turn helps me through it, I found a peace like no other.

    • Sometimes as believers in Jesus Christ and sons and daughters of the most High God we often desire and think we are entitled to quick fixes with prayer. The problem is found, when we serve a God, who is able to do all things and yet in many ways does not do them in a manner in which we believe he should. For example, many are praying and praying and praying for a mate; when the word says marry whom you will only in the Lord. That means the same method you used in getting a job will be the same method used in getting a mate. Why all of a sudden we change methods? Now if your method of getting a job has not landed you one, then change methods and the same for relationships, but in the Lord. To be unequally yoked together is to create for yourself undue hardship that is already a part of two souls becoming one in the first place. We must take responsibility for our actions and rely on grace to get us through our failures. All the while understanding that obedience is better than sacrifice.

  42. This is an interesting piece. It has always been the problem with man, outward looks. I will base my comment on two points from the piece.
    1) ‘…to agree to disagree’ at the point of conversion. It would have been better with ‘…to disagree to agree’. They have agreed to disagree,no problem.
    2) I love your simile,Rachel-like’. Rachel was a paragon of beauty but an enemy of God who did not die or sleep with the righteous. They can get married if the man is ready to live with ‘Jacob’s Lamentation’ for the rest of his life. Ask google to search for an article with that title.

  43. I can tell you about the future not about the past, nor what might have been or not and if it did or did not happen. Why didn’t you ask me about this before it happened? I would have told you they should never have got involved… That man thought he was Jesus and that his mission was to save her… That’s a mad thing to think of oneself in the first place… I know Sis, Rosie, would love your blog but she’s not here,
    Feralbulb

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