Some people think love comes automatically. It is something natural that humans do. To even think that a woman requires special knowledge to love a man may seem absurd to some, but here is what the Bible says:
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children” (Titus 2:3-4).
Notice there is two words listed in the last sentence “teach” and “train.” Teach is passing information on and to train is a continuing process of rehearsal. Every young girl should have an older woman who has a successful marriage teaching and training them, how to love their husbands and children. It is Biblical.
In order for a woman to know how to love a man, she must possess love first. She cannot give something she does not have. God is love (1 John 4:8). She must have God’s Spirit of love. She acquires this through believing in Jesus.
Secondly, through God’s Spirit of love, a woman now has the capacity and capability to be taught and trained to love. The first step is crucial in loving a man.
Thirdly, a woman learns how precious she is in the sight of God. She understands that she is a diamond. She is whole in Christ. Her sins are forgiven and she has become a new creature. She is beautiful and blessed by God.
Fourthly, she learns within her training to love a man, that her words are powerful. She has the ability to force a man with her lips. Her lips can crush his spirit or elevate his heart. Her words may be gentle pelts upon his heart or a nagging inside his soul. A woman trained on loving a man knows and feels the man’s heart. Her heart is connected to his through God.
Fifthly, she learns that a man’s temptation is common to mankind (1 Corinthians 10:13). She does not aid the devil in rejecting his need for sex. Her love responds with yes. She is taught to be a helpmeet and not a hindrance.
Sixthly, she receives with joy the love offered by the man who yields to the ease of her language, her lips filled with love and the beauty of her presence, as her body is offered to the man. This is love unashamed and intimate.
Seventh, she is a wise woman who understands the season and knows the time in which she resides and with patience waits for the promises God has offered her. She is never alone. Connected to God’s Spirit and intertwined with her husband. She is not jealous, because she knows what she is doing and it is God’s will and not her own. So God richly blesses her.