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Why do Christian women perpetuate myths about attraction?

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My husband and I attend a large Protestant church of the superfunrockband denomination. On Wednesday evenings, our church holds small group Bible studies, and HHG and I attend the one for married couples.  We meet in a large room and split into small groups, each group with its own table and leader.

This past week was rough because the topic was sex.  I just could not believe that all the things we joke about Christians saying were actually said.  For example, one young woman actually used the women-are-like-a-crockpot crock of crap.  This is not true, in case anyone has not figured it out yet.  It does not take a woman, Christian or otherwise, eight hours to become sexually aroused.  The idea that a man needs to spend eight hours giving her tender kisses, helping with the laundry, telling her how much he loves her, and bringing her flowers just to turn her on is wrong.  She may like all those things very much, they may be nice things to do, but they will not make her sexually aroused.  Why do Christian women keep telling men this?  It’s like we’ve all succumbed to mass delusion.

Unbelievably, another woman told the group how hot it is when her husband does the dishes and plays with the kids.  She actually said that as a serious comment, and all the other ladies laughed and nodded. HHG immediately texted me under the table, wishing to know why, if women find men doing dishes to be so irresistibly arousing, he has never received a bl*w j*b while up to his elbows in soap suds.  I could no longer stand it, so I whipped out my iPad and looked up a recent study, refuting her blue pill bull pucky by reading aloud the following quote:

A February paper in the American Sociological Review reported that married couples in which men take on a greater share of the dishes, laundry and other traditionally female chores had sex less often than average, which in this study  was about five times a month. Yet couples in which men confined themselves largely to traditionally male chores such as yard work enjoyed sex more frequently than average.

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His Words, Not Mine

The word of God is solid. The word of God through the Bible is sure and steadfast.

“All scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.” – 2 Timothy 3:16 –

When the Bible speaks on the subject of divorce it is sin period. Do not confuse the fact that divorce may be prevalent, it is still SIN. You may have several questions and in the end the Bible is still clear. SIN! What does this mean? It means if I have divorced repent to God for your sin and move forward. Do not try and justify this, it only causes more pain and lingering suffering. If you are able to get out of divorce do it. Victory is always better than defeat. Paul died for the faith of the gospel of Jesus Christ, to some he was defeated holding on a gospel that led to his demise, but Christ calls him victorious. We do not judge marriage by the struggle, we reward marriage by success.

When the Bible speaks on the subject of strange sexuality it is sin period. Do not confuse the fact that strange sexuality may be prevalent, it is still SIN. You may have several questions and in the end the Bible is still clear. SIN! What does this mean? It means if I have participated in strange sexuality, repent to God for your sin and move forward. Do not try and justify this, it only causes more pain and lingering suffering. Identify the door into strange sexuality and remove it from your life. Victory is always better than defeat. We do not judge strange sexuality by the struggle (the fight of internal desire toward it); we reward right living by success. Sin causes death when it is finished.


SIN hurts the user, but Jesus Christ has made a way through his blood sacrifice, to save whoever calls out to him for his saving grace.

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THINGS I DID NOT HEAR IN SCHOOL

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I wished I heard that the things you desire now will change, so consider you’re choices carefully. I wished I heard that money is fleeting and you should save a little money every time you make some. I wished I … Continue reading

HERETIC OR COULD HE?

My last four fortune cookies, yes I said, fortune cookies. That is the name given to them by Panda Express for which I received them. Please do not read into this dogma, just something to make you go hmmm.

Arrived at the Panda Expressed Sad. Recently, I have been having a difficult time in school and sadness is something for which a C makes me. I probably should not have overloaded on school, but I am trying to finish as quickly as possible. My cookie reads:

This cookie made me stop and think. I have made some helpful relationships that led to other helpful people and I have found selling on Amazon to be somewhat fruitful (not talking exponential) I sold my iphone 3’s and used the money earned to pay for my iphone 4s.

At this point my decision for school is being questioned within my mind. My cookie reads:

A class for which I thought I would not make and did (God’s grace). It appears that I should be on track for my grad this May. My cookie read:

Again, not dogma, but I do believe using fortune cookies is not outside a method for God to speak. Historically, he used a donkey, raven, and Jonah can attest, he also used a fish.

SIN IN EXCESS

If we take a personal journey of our lives whether we profess that Jesus is Lord or not we will find as created beings in God’s image that all commit and have committed various wrong doings or sin. The disobedience to authority as youth and the prevalent indulgence in lusts of various kinds have colored our existence, until we finally come across the believer in Jesus Christ who is possessed by the love of God. An individual who is on fire or as some may say “the zeal of the Lord hath eaten them up.” Whatever it may be, this desire to please God makes this individual, a candidate for God to use strategically in such a way as to bring others into the very fire and love of God as the one in which at first before being exposed to Christ was cold. This fire and zeal for Christ does not mean the individual has ceased from sin in such a way as to be without fault, but the excess of sin has been removed.

The excess of sin is drinking alcohol without being able to cease. The excess of sin is wild parties that do not cease.  The excess of sin is not controlling sexual desire to consist within the bounds of marriage, but pours out sexual desire on any willing to pick it up. The excess of sin is unrestrained desire to undermine others to increase ones wealth. Sin in excess has the destination of destruction, death, and ultimately hell.

The person who confesses Jesus Christ as Lord and believes him, God transfers his righteousness and through becoming a new creature in Christ we receive his righteousness and have access to heaven. Conversion confirmation is this, those in Christ, through his Holy Spirit, do not walk in excess of sin, but through his power and the knowledge of his word demonstrate a different lifestyle than seen on the rich and famous, through excess of drugs and alcohol and sex. Selfishness subsides as our reason for living is to please God and his will is that we love him and our neighbor.

Thoughts On: Internet Dating for Christian males and females

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It is my understanding based upon the Bible that man and female from the beginning were both created in the image of God and received blessings from God. From the beginning man was created first and then God brought Eve to Adam after placing him asleep. This  happened ONLY once. Never again does God create man and give him a woman like in the beginning. Now from the beginning the two become one flesh and have offspring. The man is the primary seeker of the hand of the woman through customary gifts to her parents. A tradition still held with some, but nonetheless a tradition. “Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Prov. 18:22. The order is ideal, but not law. For in the book of Ruth she makes herself available to Boaz by lying at his feet in the middle of the night. A gesture that shows the man she is available for marriage. A movement on the part of the woman, but here the woman must stop and let the man take over. Do not force it. Failure will be certain even if you manage to marry him there will be unnecessary trouble. Esther presented herself before the king by having her body cleaned, perfumed, manicured, and clothed properly. She dressed for the occasion. We fast forward to the 21st century and we enjoy the pleasure called the internet.

A proverbial tank filled with all kinds of fish, some great, some good, and some evil. Women who choose to wait on the Lord by sitting in the house and attending the normal church service, choir and prayer meeting, and work or not waiting on the Lord for a mate. They are just waiting. Men are waiting on women to join Christian dating sites. Faith without works is dead being alone. You must work by filling out your information and allowing yourself to be known. Focus on a paid service to eliminate those who are not serious and become available otherwise, tell individuals you’re not waiting on the Lord, but sometimes like the idea of marriage but enjoy being single better.